So I’m currently unemployed.
Yes, it’s amazing in many ways, especially because I’ve worked over 50 hours every week since I was 19 years old (save for vacations of course) and worked over 60 hours per week since I was 25 years old.
I’m now 34.
I’m decompressing and trying to discover who I actually am without Journeys to define me.
And I’m learning something very interesting about myself…
What I have learned about myself over the last 3 weeks of having no job is…
I’m damn close to the person that I thought I was!
I was told that I’d have identity crisis. Or that I’d have to find my self or my personality…
Of course, some things in my head and in my actions are slightly different; I’m happier. Much more relaxed! 1000% more present in the moment without work to “worry” me or a work phone with never ending notifications nagging for my attention.
But all in all, I’m the same dude.
Still not super outgoing, but highly engaging once I’m in conversation.
Still not THAT funny, but kinda funny.
Still my same super power of sitting down at a table one-on-one with someone and having them ask me advice (an interview essentially).
Still a thinker.
Still a doer to the same level as before.
Maybe I’m more self-aware than I thought?
Maybe I’m more secure in who I am?
Shit, maybe I haven’t totally found myself yet and I will be someone different than I always thought? Who knows…
But what I will tell you is this…
Work Will Expand to Fill the Time Available for it’s Completion
It’s called Parkinson’s Law.
Basically, if you have 8 hours to do something, it’s going to take 8 hours.
If you have 8 hours to accomplish 2 things, it’s going to take 8 hours.
I have a quote that I got from somewhere a long time ago that has always been one of my favorites…
I Don’t Need More Time. What I Need Is a Deadline.
You know how that works! Your teacher in high school gives you 2 months to do a project, and what do you do? Wait until 3 days before it’s due to start.
As you struggle to finish, you say “I need more time!” and then your teacher (annoyingly) reminds you that the project was assigned 2 months ago.
That has become my life!
Now, I am for sure accomplishing more now than when I worked 60 hours per week, and the house is cleaner and I take the time to walk my son Boston to the bus stop every morning at 7:50am…
But I can’t finish as many things as I thought I could with all this free time! It’s been crazy!
Solving for Parkinson’s Law
I’m looking for the “life hack” to either overcome Parkinson’s Law, or how to add more things into the “time available for completion“.
I’m trying To Do Lists. They are getting more organized and robust, and that is going well.
I’m working on getting a LOOSE routine in place (mainly because routine drives me nuts).
I’m setting my alarm for 5:30am tomorrow and when that phone goes off, I’m GETTING UP.
This morning I set the stage so when I woke up, I had no pajamas to put on, only work out clothes. And Thursday is usually my rest day because I play indoor soccer on Wednesdays…But I put those clothes on, and then worked out once the fam was gone. I learned that trick from Jocko Willink.
It’s just odd not having any deadlines now!
Be interesting to see how this evolves 🙂